tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3313009931298256746.post508051986833171841..comments2024-02-25T07:27:59.560-07:00Comments on Nourished and Nurtured: Book Review: The Five Love LanguagesSarah Smithhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01348347054374584427noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3313009931298256746.post-76558213594408159452012-09-09T12:58:59.873-06:002012-09-09T12:58:59.873-06:00Good point, Lori! Ryan's language is acts of ...Good point, Lori! Ryan's language is acts of service too, but he doesn't generally ask me to do anything for him. Rather, I need to pay attention to when he offers to do things for me, and be sure to let him do them. I tend to think, "no, I can vacuum", and then he is crestfallen that I don't let him do things for me. It is all so interesting and definitely makes you pay attention to the dynamics in a relationship.Sarah Smithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01348347054374584427noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3313009931298256746.post-23332233205178447552012-09-09T07:38:23.976-06:002012-09-09T07:38:23.976-06:00One thing I have discovered about love languages i...One thing I have discovered about love languages is this. My husband's primary love language is acts of service; if I do not respond to his request that I do something for him (an act of service, though my primary love language is physical touch), he perceives it as though I do not love him well. My responding to him with physical touch instead of an act of service doesn't "parse" with his brain as an expression of my love toward him.<br /><br />So his love language toward me is also a pathway by which he receives love as well. In short, how he expresses his love toward me is also in a way how he defines my love toward him, even though my love language is different than his. When I reach out to my husband with physical touch, he knows that I need him to love me back in that way; it took me a while to understand that his requests of me and my response to them was his way of getting the love he needed. I had sort of selfishly focused on my own language at the expense of his, and it took me a while to really understand why he was so grumpy when I had forgotten to make hummingbird food (again!) while he was at work ;0<br /><br />It's been a while since I've read Chapman, and I wanted to mention that insight in case he did not cover it, or in case I had missed it the first time.Lori K. Johnsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03662964033019803882noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3313009931298256746.post-2640062187629705202012-08-06T05:43:20.311-06:002012-08-06T05:43:20.311-06:00Thank you for this post. I have been married for a...Thank you for this post. I have been married for almost two years and feel the shift from the crazy, effortless "in love" feeling to the conscious choice to love. I have been thinking about the concept of this book over the past few months as our lives have changed (having a beautiful baby boy and some extended family drama.) We have had to work much harder at communicating, but it has been rewarding. I need to find my copy of this book!Hayley from Love Art Babyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06740310482957745463noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3313009931298256746.post-22705191329549706352012-07-29T22:03:47.273-06:002012-07-29T22:03:47.273-06:00A great book that my family references often. It m...A great book that my family references often. It makes a big difference to know your partner's (and your own) languages in which you give and receive love. There is also The Five Love Languages for kids that is very good!Laurenhttp://laurenreedy.netnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3313009931298256746.post-29990295261557496252012-07-23T18:25:06.926-06:002012-07-23T18:25:06.926-06:00I read it a long time ago and still think of it fr...I read it a long time ago and still think of it from time to time. It's a really good resource!Kristinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07912518380859086951noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3313009931298256746.post-60806292938771967722012-07-22T13:43:33.628-06:002012-07-22T13:43:33.628-06:00That is so funny... My love language is quality ti...That is so funny... My love language is quality time and my husband's is service just like you and your husband. Reading that book definitely helped us understand each other.JuliPicklehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10588542589439811480noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3313009931298256746.post-13784517551364475392012-07-22T11:36:33.157-06:002012-07-22T11:36:33.157-06:00LOVE that book!!! I think I should get it back ou...LOVE that book!!! I think I should get it back out. It's been quite a few years since we read it. My husband and I could both use a reminder. And it would be VERY helpful to learn about my kids' love languages!!Mary Voogthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03746442249734371029noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3313009931298256746.post-84189062804055734572012-07-22T08:50:56.537-06:002012-07-22T08:50:56.537-06:00Thank you for your well written review of one of m...Thank you for your well written review of one of my favorite books! I often think about it in regard to relationships.<br />Was important to realize that what makes me feel loved is not necessarily my husband's love language and vice versa. <br />And what others usually do to convey their love for us, is often their own love language.<br /><br />Thank you for your reminder of what is most important.<br />In our culture of emphasis on one's own rights, it's refreshing to focus on the power of loving others;<br /><br /> Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. (1 Cor. 13:4-7)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3313009931298256746.post-7797433006291834532012-07-22T07:31:18.731-06:002012-07-22T07:31:18.731-06:00That is so interesting. I have been married 22 yr...That is so interesting. I have been married 22 yrs and had been going through a really rough patch with my husband a few years ago. It got better for me when I finally realized that like your husband, mine shows his love by doing dishes, going to work, being at home (whether he is in the same room or not, he views this as loyalty and love. I started to honor those things about him more. I will have to read this book. ThanksLisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02453393101974401737noreply@blogger.com